The One Thing

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I was told by the third person that I should read the book Halftime written by Bob Buford. I was also told by multiple people to read Giving by Bill Clinton. So, I purchased my first two Kindle books and I am reading both of them right now. The book by Bill Clinton is all about wonderful people and organizations that are making a difference in the world and different ways that people can give back. The book Halftime talks about the point in our lives when we realize that life is more than the collection of what we have achieved and how we can live a more purpose driven life.

I believe I have been living a purpose driven life for a long time, but I am realizing that my life was still focused on the concepts of success. The subtitle of Halftime is “Changing your Game Plan from Success to Significance.” Now Buford’s book is steeped in his religious beliefs, that don’t align with mine, but the story is still impactful to me. The concept of significance and purpose are starting to rule my life. How do I change my focus from success to significance?

When I was 28 I created a definition of success that has guided my life for the past 20 years. That definition was simple:

Success: The ability to do what I want whenever I want.

So, I have spent the past 20 years building a life that allowed me the flexibility to own my schedule and have freedom in just about every other area of my life. I have always wanted freedom and most of the people I meet in my travels don’t have that. So, when we picked up the family from NY and moved to San Diego and our life was just as good, if not better than before, I felt like we had achieved my definition of success. So, for the past 2 years I have been trying to redefine success and I am realizing it is no longer about success, it is about significance and purpose. As Buford puts it, moving from success to significance.

This has been an interesting year so far and it is still not over. I believe that 2012 will go down as one of the most powerful and eye opening years of my life. It started with our company retreat with 4 new team members at 4-Profit that have turned out to be amazing people and amazing team members. The year continued with the kids doing really well in school and our summer in NY and then our trip to Africa, which I believe changed everyone’s life in our family. The last few months of the year have a lot in store, including my upcoming trip to Opportunity Collaboration, our niece’s Bat Mitzvah, our kids first trip on a plane by themselves to see Gramdma and Grandpa in Florida and my wife celebrating her 50th birthday.

So, getting back to my one thing. I believe that the one thing has changed at different times in my life and it might change again, but for now the one thing is making the biggest possible difference in the world that I can. That includes trying to raise two amazing children to be the best possible citizens they can be in the world and improving my relationship with my wife so I can have the freedom to do what I need to and she has the foundation to do what she needs to do. My future is to become a conduit of social change, that is my purpose. I aim to enjoy every day that I live on this planet and I am excited about where this journey is headed.

‘Til next time ……


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